My childhood was spent with a borderline alcoholic father, my over whelmingly loving mother, my younger brother Tim and my younger sister Melody. Growing up was hard with my father being a merchant seamen, always traveling and never there for us, But I think we all turned out better than expected. But life was pretty easy I'm assuming, I never starved and I always had a roof over my head. But being disabled as taken its toll on me and my family. But as a child, it didn't effect me much, I never really thought about it. But now, being an adult, its held me back. When my wife of 8 years died, I was left with the only thing she left behind, my 5 year old daughter. I knew I had to do life right for her, but it came back down to being disabled. Trying to find a job was never easy. They would call me, give me an interview, and than when I got in and they saw I was disabled, they than told me "We have a few more people to check out first, we'll let you know" than I never heard from them again. I did run into a few good people who had it in their hearts to give me a chance, those people, will always hold a place in my heart. Watching my daughter grow up was one of the most amazing thing's I could ever do in life. Even with everyone telling me I couldn't and saying I was a bad parent and had no right to keep her, I tried my best. Throughout life you'll learn who your real friends are and who will stick up for you when life gets tough. I figured out that I cannot count on a single person in my family to help me out. My brother always telling me I couldn't do it, and my sister always going along with what other people said, I felt so alone. But my daughter kept me going. When she hit those teenage years I thought I had failed. She was always angry and always blaming me for things. I now know, that no matter what, She will always have my back and be my supporter. My life, is simple yet complicated I guess you could say. Always feeling down on myself and feeling that I'm not worth it, but everytime my daughter says "I love you dad" It just gives me hope and makes me want to wake up each morning. I may not have alot in the life, but I have enough to keep my happy. I may not have riches and I may not have fame. But what is that compared to the love of your child? I have conqured all that has been thrown at me, making my mistakes, maybe more than once, But I eventually learned
that I need to move on from my mistakes and take care of myself.
I'm not only a parent or father to my daughter, I'm her friend. She knows that she can count on me no matter what. Whether she kills someone or she does good in life, I'm always there to support her. My life without her would be nothing.
I'm proud to call myself a parent. And even tho I have my disadvantages I will always stay true to who I am. Some people may judge me and call me names. Make fun of me, point and laugh. But none of that matters.
I am who I am because of all the things that have happened in my life. Whether it was good or bad.
I wont pretend anymore. I'm proud to be Robert Thomas, disabled, proud parent and loved by many.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
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it made me really sad but other then that it was really really good :)
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